{"id":652,"date":"2021-10-01T08:52:22","date_gmt":"2021-10-01T06:52:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/?p=652"},"modified":"2021-10-01T08:52:22","modified_gmt":"2021-10-01T06:52:22","slug":"you-are-coaching-or-being-coached","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/?p=652","title":{"rendered":"You are coaching or being coached!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n
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Two weeks ago, I\nreceived an email with this phrase: \u201cIf you\u2019d like me to coach you to\nconfidence and self-belief, reply to this email and let\u2019s talk\u201d. This had made\nme think about the essence of coaching and the talents of coaches. I don’t need\ncoaching on confidence and self-belief; but, perhaps, in some areas. There is\nalways room for improvement, and I’m perfectly imperfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is coaching? Cambridge\nDictionary defines coaching (UK – k\u0259\u028a.t\u0283\u026a\u014b\/ US -\u02c8ko\u028a.t\u0283\u026a\u014b) as \u201cthe act of\ngiving special classes in sports, a school subject, or a work-related activity,\nespecially to one person or a small group\u201d (https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/dictionary\/english\/coaching<\/a>).\nCollins English Dictionary\u2019s definition of it includes \u201ctraining staff in\nbusiness or office practice\u201d and \u201cgiving a person special teaching in a\nparticular subject\u201d (HarperCollins Publishers, https:\/\/www.collinsdictionary.com\/dictionary\/english\/coaching).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I was young, I associated coaching only with sports. I have since changed my understanding of it. Coaching applies in every professional and personal area and in every aspect of one\u2019s life.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to the International Coaching Community (https:\/\/internationalcoachingcommunity.com\/what-is-coaching<\/a>), coaching should help a person change how they wish and go in the direction they want, supporting them at every level in becoming who they want to be, and building awareness that empowers choice and leads to change. This is the definition that I relate to. My ex-colleague has converted into a wellness coach. She is not an expert in her clients’ field of work and does not transfer knowledge and skills, unlike when she was teaching English, but helps them cope with their personal and professional challenges. When she speaks about her newfound profession, her eyes glitter. Is it because of money?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With an annual salary of AUD 1,11,895.60, Ravi Shastri of India is the highest-paid cricket coach (https:\/\/www.australiaunwrapped.com\/how-much-do-cricket-coaches-get-paid\/). Diego Simeone is the highest-paid football coach (US $50 million with a current net worth of US $130 million (https:\/\/briefly.co.za\/106878-20-highest-paid-coach-world-2021-top-paid-coaches-worth.html<\/a>). Non-sports coaches, however, earn anywhere from 20 euros an hour to … The rest of us are unpaid coaches. We help family members, friends, colleagues, acquaintances, neighbours and friends of friends change in the way they wish, supporting them at every level in becoming who they want to be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Should you spend money for academic, business, finance, professional, or relationship coaching? That depends on several factors. I think the answer is no if it is just a way to feel like you\u2019re doing something about a problem that you can solve on your own. Wouldn\u2019t you rather find time to figure out what and how you want things should be?  Unless your goal is to fully optimise an area of your life (e.g. financial investment) or you are passionate about improvement (e.g. more healthy and fit), you might not need a paid coach. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, if\nyou decide to have one, remember that you won\u2019t get value for money, even how\ngood the coach is if you don\u2019t have any direction or a clear understanding of the\nintended outcome. As such, define your desires, goals and ideas before you\nengage a coach. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Who, exactly, seeks out a coach? If you ask a\ncoach, the answer is usually the same: Winners who want even more out of\nlife”.<\/em>\n– Abigail Pickus (seen\non https:\/\/positivepsychology.com\/coaching-quotes\/ article by Kelly Miller).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like most professions,\nthere are good and bad coaches. Like most services, there are trade-offs and\ndownsides in coaching.  It\u2019s for you to do\nthe weighing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Either you\u2019re a paid or unpaid coach or being coached, keep in mind: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.       The goal is not to solve a specific problem<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The purpose of coaching\nis not to fix problems. Therefore, avoid providing a solution before hearing\nthe views of the person being coached.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.       Manipulation has no place in coaching<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nudging the person being coached to come to the same conclusion as the coach by asking condescending and obnoxious questions is unethical. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.       Avoid interruption and distraction <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Interruption and distraction can sweep away vital information. Silence is part of communication and can encourage the person to think more profoundly about the issue at stake. Do not be in a noisy or messy place as it is not conducive for coaching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4.       Be patient <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A coaching process is\nlonger than seeing a physiotherapist or dentist. It is about building\nself-belief, which takes time and patience. \n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 \u201cGood coaching is good teaching and nothing\nelse.\u201d<\/em><\/strong>  \u2013 Pat Conroy (seen on https:\/\/sharpencx.com\/blog\/quotes-for-coaching-inspiration\/\narticle by Veronica Krieg).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Two weeks ago, I received an email with this phrase: \u201cIf you\u2019d like me to coach you to confidence and self-belief, reply to this email and let\u2019s talk\u201d. This had made me think about the essence of coaching and the talents of coaches. I don’t need coaching on confidence and self-belief; but, perhaps, in some … Continue reading You are coaching or being coached!<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-652","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-social-political-cultural-economic-issues"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/652","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=652"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/652\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":655,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/652\/revisions\/655"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=652"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=652"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=652"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}