{"id":718,"date":"2022-06-01T07:19:55","date_gmt":"2022-06-01T05:19:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/?p=718"},"modified":"2022-06-01T07:19:56","modified_gmt":"2022-06-01T05:19:56","slug":"compliments-and-the-magic-phrase","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/?p=718","title":{"rendered":"Compliments and the magic phrase"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n
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Has your supervisor said to you, “Well done”,\n“Fantastic work”, or “Keep up the good work”? What did you\nsay in return? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A mere “Thank you” – the magic phrase –  is enough to show that we appreciate the compliment.\nComplimenting is not and should not be a one-way street. Some employees\ncomplain that their managers do not praise them, but do these staff members give\ntheir bosses compliments?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are\nsome compliments I have heard and read:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are\nreally good at what you do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We appreciate\nyour optimism and “can do” attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We enjoyed\nyour contribution during the staff meeting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You gave an\nexcellent presentation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are an\nindispensable member of our team.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are a\nreliable boss.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are a\nconsiderate supervisor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are a\ndedicated employee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You always perform\nwell, even under pressure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I enjoy working\nwith you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some people find it easier to give than receive compliments. Last year, a French friend commented: “I can’t believe it; I read a novel in English, the first novel in English. It took me only two weeks. You’re a great storyteller”. I shrugged my shoulders and said, “It was a six-month COVID lockdown manuscript. I could have written it better”. Of course, there’s always room for improvement, but I put myself down with that response. I should have simply told her that I appreciated her compliment. After all, didn’t I deserve it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being suspicious about a compliment is unproductive\nand causes misunderstanding. Meanwhile, if insecure and devilish humans give\nyou insincere compliments (bordering sarcasm), be upfront and ask them what\nthey really want to discuss with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Three weeks ago, I received a text from someone I\ndidn’t know personally, who is in our Whatsapp Ex-UQ\/Bne Lunch Grp, that he had\nbought a copy of my latest book English Language Lovers<\/em> <\/strong>and would\nsubmit an Amazon review. Many authors find this revelation “not a biggy”,\nbut it’s for me. I consider this a compliment, so I thanked him right away.  <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don’t know about you, but I like giving and receiving compliments when they are due because they make people feel good. A compliment can brighten a day, motivate, and instil confidence and trust. During my lessons and encounters with new acquaintances, I use compliments to break the ice. These are sincere compliments and not done haphazardly. Fake compliments are easy to spot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Often, I get positive responses to my compliments: “Thanks,\nthat’s nice of you. You came up with helpful ideas, too”; “Thanks,\nthat’s kind of you”; “Thanks for noticing it”; “Thanks for\nliking it”; and “I appreciate that, have a nice day”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s continue giving and receiving sincere\ncompliments; these are free and improve performance and relationships.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Has your supervisor said to you, “Well done”, “Fantastic work”, or “Keep up the good work”? What did you say in return? A mere “Thank you” – the magic phrase –  is enough to show that we appreciate the compliment. Complimenting is not and should not be a one-way street. Some employees complain that their … Continue reading Compliments and the magic phrase<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-718","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-social-political-cultural-economic-issues"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/718","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=718"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/718\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":719,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/718\/revisions\/719"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=718"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=718"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roladesocietalblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=718"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}